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Rites of Passage in Business: Building a Business that Honors the Rhythms of a Woman’s Life

[Are you a psychotherapy client interested in my signature program, Rites of Passage Therapy: A Self-Care Journey? Learn more here.]

My Own Rite of Passage as a Therapist and Business Owner

When I began building private practices more than 15 years ago, I didn’t have mentors to guide me in the business side of the healing profession.

Among therapists, there was often a half-joking belief: you were either good as a healer or good in business—but rarely both.

For many of us in the helping professions, business felt like a separate world. Something you figured out on your own while quietly hoping the work would sustain itself.

When I stepped into private practice on my own in 2014, I made a decision that became a turning point in my professional life. For the first time, I invested directly in my business by working with several therapists who had become business mentors and coaches.

What drew me to them was their perspective: they were intentionally building businesses as a feminine practice—one that honored intuition, purpose, and the rhythms of life rather than forcing ourselves into rigid models of productivity.

That investment helped me clarify who I was professionally and how to communicate my calling in a way that resonated with the clients I was meant to serve.

Looking back, that decision became its own rite of passage. The clarity and alignment it created in my work has returned that investment many times over.

Modern life rarely offers us these markers anymore. Instead, we are often expected to move through transitions silently, quickly, and efficiently.

This is especially true for women in business.

Many entrepreneurial models are built around constant growth, relentless productivity, and linear scaling. Yet for many female-identifying entrepreneurs, this model eventually creates burnout, creative stagnation, or a quiet sense of disconnection from the work that once felt meaningful.

But what if building a business could follow a different rhythm?

What if your business growth could unfold as a series of intentional rites of passage—each stage bringing its own challenges, insights, and transformation?

A Different Model of Business Growth for Women

Traditional business culture often treats success as a straight upward line. But many women experience their entrepreneurial journey in cycles and phases—much like the natural rhythms of creativity, the body, and the seasons of life.

These stages can be understood as rites of passage in business.

Initiation: The Calling

Every business begins with a moment of initiation.

An idea arrives. A deeper purpose begins to stir. You may feel excitement, inspiration, and also uncertainty about what comes next.

This stage asks for courage and trust. It is the threshold where identity begins to shift—from employee, helper, or dreamer into entrepreneur and creator.

Formation: Bringing the Vision to Life

During the formation stage, the business begins to take shape.

You develop your offerings, create structure, establish your brand, and begin working with early clients. This stage is often both exhilarating and vulnerable as your work becomes visible.

For many women entrepreneurs, this is also where self-doubt and visibility fears can arise. It is a powerful rite of passage that asks you to claim your voice and your expertise.

Expansion: Growth and Leadership

Eventually, the business begins to expand.

More clients arrive. Systems become necessary. The work grows beyond a single idea and becomes a living ecosystem.

At this stage, many entrepreneurs shift into deeper leadership and strategic thinking. It often brings new opportunities—but also increased responsibility and complexity.

Expansion is not simply about scaling income. It is about learning how to hold more impact, visibility, and authority in your field.

Reevaluation: The Entrepreneurial Threshold

Nearly every business owner eventually reaches a moment of reevaluation.

What once worked no longer feels aligned. The business may feel heavy, overextended, or creatively stale.

This stage can feel confusing or even frightening—but it is actually one of the most important rites of passage in entrepreneurship.

Reevaluation invites deeper questions:

  • What part of this work still feels alive?

  • What have I outgrown?

  • What direction is my work asking to evolve toward?

Rather than signaling failure, this stage often marks the beginning of a more authentic version of your business.

Integration and Renewal

From reevaluation comes renewal.

Sometimes renewal means refining your existing work. Sometimes it means evolving your services, shifting your niche, or redefining your leadership.

This stage integrates everything you have learned along the way—your skills, your intuition, your experience, and your values.

The business becomes less about following external formulas and more about embodying your own unique way of working and leading.

Listening to the Rhythms of the Body and Inner Compass

Many female entrepreneurs discover that their creative and professional energy moves in waves rather than straight lines.

Some seasons are expansive and outward-facing. Others call for rest, reflection, restructuring, or new visioning.

When these rhythms are ignored, business can begin to feel like a constant uphill push.

But when they are honored, something powerful happens: the business begins to flow with you rather than against you.

This might look like:

  • Designing work schedules that respect energy cycles

  • Allowing intentional pauses for strategic reflection

  • Letting intuition guide pivots and new offerings

  • Honoring life transitions such as motherhood, caregiving, health changes, or personal growth

Rather than interrupting your professional path, these experiences often deepen your leadership and clarity as a business owner.

The Emotional and Identity Shifts of Entrepreneurship

Business growth is not only strategic—it is deeply personal.

Each stage of entrepreneurship asks you to evolve internally:

  • claiming your expertise

  • navigating visibility and vulnerability

  • setting boundaries with clients and collaborators

  • redefining success on your own terms

These internal shifts are often the true rites of passage behind sustainable entrepreneurial growth.

When women entrepreneurs are supported through these transitions, their businesses tend to become more aligned, more sustainable, and more impactful.

Creating a Business That Evolves With You

A business created by a woman does not have to follow rigid, one-size-fits-all models of growth.

It can grow organically.

It can transform as you transform.

It can reflect your changing values, wisdom, boundaries, and creative cycles.

Rather than forcing yourself into a framework that was never designed for your lived experience, you can build a business that honors the natural stages of your own life and leadership.

In doing so, your work becomes more than a business.

It becomes an extension of your unfolding story.

1:1 Business Mentorship for female-identifying Entrepreneurs

If you are navigating a transition in your business—whether you are just beginning, expanding, or reevaluating your direction—you do not have to move through these stages alone.

I offer 1:1 business mentorship for female-identifying entrepreneurs who want to grow their work in ways that are both strategic and deeply aligned.

Together we can explore:

  • clarity around your next stage of business growth

  • navigating entrepreneurial transitions and pivots

  • developing offerings and structures that feel sustainable

  • reconnecting your business with your deeper purpose and vision

Mentorship can support you at any stage of your entrepreneurial journey, helping your business evolve in a way that honors both your ambitions and your inner rhythms.

If this approach resonates with you, I invite you to learn more about working together through 1:1 business mentorship. Contact me to learn more!

If you are a potential psychotherapy client, and are interested in my signature program, Rites of Passage Therapy: A Self-Care Journey, feel free to read this offering and apply to the link! I look forward to hearing from you!

2025 Practice Updates

We are already through the first month of 2025, and I have been coming up for air after having a lovely restful time off during the holiday season. January is usually a busy time for welcoming new clients to my practice, preparing for tax season, and setting professional intentions for the year ahead. In this vein, I also want to acknowledge how much our country and world have changed since last year. Many clients are coming to therapy with many anxieties about their sense of community safety and belonging. I hope to provide support and services to meet you in those spaces of anxiety and offer ways to keep you healthy during these uncertain times.

This being said, here are a few pre-existing offerings and new updates in my practice in 2025:

  1. Somatic processing: I have attended many somatic trainings and find that when we have too much coming at us, we often get emotions and stress stuck in the body. Therapy sessions can help us keep our bodies free from emotional and stressful blockages. Many suggestions involve finding micro-movements that feel good to the body, help to release stress, and activate more of our parasympathetic nervous system (rest and digest).

  2. Cannabis education: Last year, I completed a course on becoming a Cannabis Educator. While I am not able to give direct recommendations on the use of cannabis, I can talk through what and how cannabis can work as a healing medicine, a fantastic endocannabinoid system regulator, and how to manage symptoms of tolerance and titrating with CBD products. CBD is a non-psychoactive substance found in hemp and is legal for over-the-counter use. I highly advocate experimenting with CBD products to help with anxiety-related symptoms.

  3. Florida clients with Blue Cross Blue Shield (Florida Blue) insurance: I am now an in-network provider for Florida Blue and am accepting new clients. If you have out-of-state Blue Cross plans, I offer to provide superbills for your therapy fees to see if you can get in-network reimbursement. Please remember that I cannot provide superbills if you live outside my licensed states (Illinois, Georgia, Florida).

  4. Counseling Compact to expand provider access across state lines: The counseling field has initiated the same type of national licensing compacts that psychologists and other licensed providers already have. The national compact allows licensed counselors to become licensed in multiple states more easily. They hope the compact will be open for applications starting later this year. Upon learning more about the procedures, I hope to expand my access to Missouri, Wisconsin, Colorado, and other states.

Every year, I set learning goals aligned with my values as a psychotherapist and healer. This year, I am taking more courses around neurodiversity, obtaining more training specifically for women with ADHD, and taking a course on using nutrition supplementation to balance neurotransmitter function. I'm excited to share more about my learning and offerings in the coming months! In the meantime, if you are interested in working with me, my application is here. Take good care of yourself!

Snowstorms & Embodiment

Have you ever been travelling during a snowstorm? The phenomena is something that can test your mental and physical limits. This weekend I was the copilot with a dear friend while we traveled to Michigan, where we encountered snowstorms on the way there and back. As I reflect on how we supported each other through the journey, I was brought to my body.

How do we know when stress has occurred? Very often, we can identify this through our body signals: tight chest, shallow breathing, or a churning of the gut. I’ve been finishing an online training entitled: Toward an Embodied Self. This training is incorporating somatic techniques for therapists who specialize in processing all forms of trauma. In the training, we are instructed to pay very close attention to our clients non-verbal cues, most of which are found in body language.

When we are under acute or chronic stress, our bodies are the best way of alerting us if we pay attention. In my work with clients, many have cut themselves off from their body cues due to their trauma history. The task of reacquainting them with their body can be a slow and gradual process. What is the best way to start this process? By creating safety within the body.

How do we begin the process of creating safety in the body? When my friend was driving through the snowstorm, how did I support her? We begin to talk about and explore resources that can create a positive shift in the body. Examples could be: talking about a pleasant place my friend visited that was warm and sunny (visual), imagining stroking my dogs soft fur (tactile), listening to fun music (auditory), or biting into a crisp apple (olfactory and taste). I also read her funny buzzfeed articles (laughing heals).

When we allow ourselves to pay attention to how our bodies feel when we engage in pleasant resources, there is a shift. Where once there was tension, it has melted away. Where there was once unease, we find our breathing gets easier. We notice the contrast of our stressed bodies with our resourced bodies.

Even though Abby and I were stuck in a car for longer than we wanted, in circumstances that were less than ideal, we made it through. We both consciously and unconsciously resourced our bodies. In the processing of trauma, we are looking for the body to integrate the experience so we no longer carry the remnants of it in our fascia, muscles, and cells. We become more resilient to stress in the future. We become more embodied as a whole person.

If you are interested in knowing more about the process of embodiment, bringing safety back to the body, and more, my coaching services address all these needs. I’m more than happy to talk on the phone about how I can help. Please send me a message and we can chat!